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semperfionaRay just called. He wanted to "drop by the house a couple times a week" after he moves out, and before I move in, to collect his mail. I told him I'd be going over there regularly and I would get his mail for him. And he accused me of being selfish, unwilling to help him in any way (and returned to my refusal to give his mortgage company my loan papers, my unwillingness to answer the third degree about babysitters...) while claiming that he himself is a paragon of virtue and helpfulness because he's going to be at the house when the gas people come to read out the meter and connect it in my name. He already had an appointment because they had to do a final reading for him anyway!
I kept trying to tell him that I felt like he was invading my personal life, in the first and second cases, and showing distrust of my ability to take care of Rosa, in the third, but he would not hear any of it, just went on about how defensive I was and how I was making this so difficult. He finished by announcing, "I don't think our friendship is ever going to develop." I just said I didn't know, though I was thinking that if it doesn't it will be his fault.
And I had been in such a happy mood...I called Liz this evening ::wavies::, and then I was happily putting together a jigsaw puzzle. Now I'm tense again.
Am I out of line not to want him in my house, especially when I'm not there? All I could think of was that his presence would undo what I hope to accomplish with my purification and protection rituals, and also that I just don't want him there.
I kept trying to tell him that I felt like he was invading my personal life, in the first and second cases, and showing distrust of my ability to take care of Rosa, in the third, but he would not hear any of it, just went on about how defensive I was and how I was making this so difficult. He finished by announcing, "I don't think our friendship is ever going to develop." I just said I didn't know, though I was thinking that if it doesn't it will be his fault.
And I had been in such a happy mood...I called Liz this evening ::wavies::, and then I was happily putting together a jigsaw puzzle. Now I'm tense again.
Am I out of line not to want him in my house, especially when I'm not there? All I could think of was that his presence would undo what I hope to accomplish with my purification and protection rituals, and also that I just don't want him there.
