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A couple weeks ago, Tammie said she wanted to do something special for Valentine's Day. So she booked the family an AirBnb night at a place not too far away (about 20 minutes from home).

It was the most incredible AirBnb I've ever heard of. A guest suite with mini kitchen attached to the home of a family, so far so ordinary. But... it was connected to the main house via an indoor pool and hot tub area lush with live plants and a koi and turtle pond (there was also a bearded dragon in an enclosure in that area), the pool was a 25 yard lap pool wide enough for 3 people to swim side by side, entered (from the guest suite) via a glass balcony seating area and spiral staircase. Then we also had use of a three-season room with full kitchen and dining table, library wall with rolling ladder, the outdoor tennis court (not that the weather would have permitted playing tennis), the upper deck and hanging chair, the basement game room-slash-fitness-center which had 1) a multi-function squash/racketball/volleyball/halfcourt basketball court with computerized shifting wall and nets/etc, 2) a fully-equipped fitness area with all the machines you'd expect, 3) seven pinball machines 4) a pool table 5) an arcade-style video game machine with 25000 games on it 6) a foosball table 7) a bar 8) a sectional couch and another full kitchen. And all that isn't going anywhere near the family's own living area, which we didn't go through although the pool area was surrounded by windows so we could see them sometimes going about their day.

For about $150 for the night. We'd have spent nearly that much at an arcade on the pinball and pool table. But the games were set to free play.

We got there, settled in, ordered dinner from The Cheesecake Factory via DoorDash, and went swimming until it arrived. Then we ate at the poolside table, cleared our dishes away, opened Valentine's presents (my Tammie got me a Harry Potter Smash Journal Kit: stencils, stickers, fancy pen, "leather"-covered journal), and then played pool and pinball until we were tired. In the morning, we had more hot tubbing and packed up to leave.

We were visited several times by the son of the house, a cute 4 year old, and occasionally by the dogs, 2 galumphing sheepadoodles (Old English Sheepdog x poodle).

I keep saying it was like spending 16 hours or so living like multimillionaires. And secondarily I'm reminded of the multivoice podfic I put together recently: Anthony J Crowley, Retired Demon and AirBnb Superhost. I keep trying to describe the place in terms like Crowley's reviewers used. "A vampire den, but make it sports!"

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And this morning, I had an interesting dream. For some reason I was participating in a filk circle with Jaskier, and I was going to sing one of his new ballads. But I didn't know the words, so he gave me a book with the words in but I kept losing the page. It was an illustrated book, small drawings all around the text. Then a break was called before our turn came, and we spent it making out under a table. Never did actually sing the song, but got some very nice snogging. Lol

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After leaving the AirBnb we drove to Rolla to meet up with Tammie's friend Tammy and her daughter. We had Mexican food for lunch, exchanged Valentine's gifts and some other assorted objects, and drove back home. Tammie and I had tickets to a salsa dance date night at 7:30 and we wanted to have time to get ready.

However, as I had kinda suspected would happen, Tammie was too tired to go out. I had tried to tell her before we made the plans that three things in one day was too many.....I was right. So we didn't go.

But we have been taking dance lessons for a few weeks now! We've learned (sort of) the foxtrot, salsa, and (one variety of) swing. Back in January, a friend of ours, David, organized a 1920's themed ball which we all attended. We watched other people dancing, and decided it was finally time to take those ballroom dance lessons we kept talking about taking.
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My second surgery is over (last Thursday), all went well, and I am writing this to you without glasses on. I feel like the brighter my surroundings are, the better I can see. I think it's for the same reason you see better when you squint: if my pupils are smaller the focus is more concentrated. Upshot is, I can see well enough to drive without glasses in the daytime, but not at night. So far I've either stayed home at night or gotten rides, but I ordered a pair of -1 diopter nearsighted cheater glasses, and they should have arrived by the time I get home, so hopefully I'll be able to drive myself to chorus practice.

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Speaking of "hopefully": why is it that language purists get so het up about that one word and want people to use ridiculous stilted circumlocutions like "it is to be hoped that"?

It's just one instance of a perfectly common usage of adverbs: they don't modify anything specific in the sentence but instead express the overall mood of the whole sentence.

"Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn."

"Sadly, there's no way I can get that done on time."

"Unfortunately, you are not a winner."

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In the grand scheme of things (i.e. the overall prevalence of misogyny in the medical system), I suppose it's not a big deal. But it's denial of agency and refusal to take a woman's word on her stated knowledge of her own body.

I have now had three procedures this year that involved anesthesia. And prior to every single one, I had to give a urine sample so they could test for pregnancy. Never mind that I knew for a definite and irrefutable fact that I was not and could not be pregnant and told them so[*]. If I refuse to give the urine sample, no procedure. One nurse even said, "You could be a nun. The anesthesiologists still require it."

[*] And yes, I know there are women who don't know they are pregnant until quite late in the pregnancy. And that there are far too many women who are ignorant of the basic mechanics (for which I blame the religious nutjobs). So yes, there are reasons. Still, if I am willing to sign a document that states that I have not had PIV sex (or any sex involving a penis, if you want to be extra careful) since my last period--why not accept that?

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In other news, Tammie has gotten a painting bug. She has bought a bunch of acrylic paints and a load of canvases (some of them VERY LARGE) and has been a painting fiend for the last few weeks. It's fun to watch her, but I'm feeling like we should finish some of the quilts we were working on in December/January--or at least put away the sewing chaos that has taken over the living room. I want to finish mine at least, though. But we don't have a big enough table nor enough clear floorspace to lay it out and make the quilt/batting/backing sandwich so we need to take it to the local sewing shop and use theirs. Maybe this weekend.

She is like this: she gets very enthusiastic about a project, and works on it feverishly for some time, and then the enthusiasm fades or she gets a new enthusiasm, and a lot of unfinished projects are the result.

Admittedly, I'm the same, so I shouldn't really judge. (And there's another of those adverbs.)
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Yesterday was the fullest busiest day I have had in ... probably ever. I mean, I sang a Black Sabbath song to Ozzy motherfucking Osborne, and that was only the SECOND most important and exciting thing I did yesterday, because I also got MARRIED!

Obviously, I've got some 'splainin to do.

I posted here almost a month ago that Tammie and I had gotten a marriage license. We had not yet set a date or made plans, so over the course of the next couple of weeks we figured that all out, made a reservation for a small private room at a local restaurant and invited our selected witnesses, for 4 o'clock on March 10th.

A little more than a week ago, the president of Charis told us we had been invited to appear on an upcoming episode of Ozzy and Jack's World Detour, to be taped...at noon on March 10th. My first thought was that no way would I be able to do it, but after talking to Tammie and Chris we decided I could make it work.

So I got up early yesterday morning, did my hair and makeup, and went to the nail salon for a manicure. Then I bought breakfast for my family, ran home and ate it with them, and took off for the tv taping, which was held in the church where we normally rehearse.

They rented us choir robes. I'd never worn a choir robe in my life, despite having sung in church choirs in my youth: it just wasn't a thing that our church did. Nor is it a thing that Charis normally does, but the tv show wanted it so *shrug*. We sang Black Sabbath's "Changes" and another song that we did last concert, by one of our own singers who is also a songwriter. Over and over and over we sang them, while they took video from multiple angles and recorded the sound again and again. I doubt I'll ever forget the words to either one, at this point.

Then, at long last, Kelly Osborne came in holding her dog Pauline, talked briefly to our conductor and our current and incoming presidents, and she and the video directors confirmed the plans. We would start out singing our own song, and then after Ozzy came in we would immediately switch to "Changes". And that is what happened; we sang while they filmed Ozzy and fam reacting to our singing. She told us afterward that she cried, and that her dad did as well, that it is a song that is very meaningful to both of them. The audio engineers asked us to sing it a second time, they redid all the video, we got some group photos with Ozzy and Kelly (and the dog), and the whole thing was over before two p.m. The whole shtick is that he's being surprised at where they take him, and we were told that when they brought Ozzy to the church he was like, "Why am I in a church?" The episode is expected to air sometime in late June/July: you'll hear details as soon as I do.

Charis stayed behind for a little while and also recorded a video to be sent to Ellen Degeneres asking her to send us a congratulations video for our 25th anniversary concert (upcoming May 4 & 5), we sang Happy Birthday to the pastor of the church we were in, and I ran away before any of the cleanup. As my chorus sisters knew what was up, no one's going to upset about that.

I got home around two, and spent about an hour decompressing, just hanging out with Rose and playing iphone games. Then it was time to get dressed and ready for the wedding.

Chris married us, as he's ordained with the Universal Life Church, and we had our daughter Rose and Tammie's boyfriend (and my maybe-something-new) Sean as the two witnesses, while Chris's girlfriend Riley took the photos. I'm the one in the tiara, Tammie is the one in the veil.

Photo album here

Tammie and Fiona get married by Chris

I don't really feel much different today; the legal arrangements really aren't supposed to and hopefully really won't make any real difference to our family situation, but these few weeks are kind of a weird liminal space anyway. Just getting the license and making the plans changed something, saying the vows changed something else, but until the license is actually recorded with the state we can't make any paperwork changes, so until then it still feels weirdly pending.

After the ceremony and dinner, we went to see Black Panther, which: amazing! But still only the third most exciting thing of Saturday, so. However, I do recommend the film. Go see it. I appreciate it when a movie gives its antagonist(s) a valid and valuable viewpoint, even if their means are suspect.
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I just went downtown and picked Tammie up from work, and we went together to City Hall...and now we have a MARRIAGE LICENSE! Sometime in the next 30 days, we're going to get Rosa and Sean to come to dinner with the three of us, and Chris will marry us (he's ordained with the Universal Life Church) while the other two are witnesses.

We're not making a big public deal because we don't want Tammie's and my changed legal status to make our relationship with Chris seem less important, so I'm not making announcements on Facebook or whatever, but I had to say it somewhere. The three of us are still planning a ceremony of some sort for all of us, but it will be a while before that happens. Big parties are 'spensive.
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In the interest of actually posting content in this journal, I subscribed to [community profile] thefridayfive. Here's my first set of answers.

1. Where did you go the last time you took an airplane ride?

Reykjavik and Berlin. Well, I mean, technically, my last plane ride was the Newark-Chicago connection on our return from Berlin, and while that's a slightly interesting story it wasn't a particularly cool destination.

Tammie, Rosa and I went to Germany to visit my girlfriend Christine and her husband Rob, with whom Tammie and I both also have some kind of sexy-times relationship. And Tammie and Christine may also have something someday...there was a very nice four-way evening in Berlin before we left. But.

Anyway, when planning the trip, we found that WOW Airlines was the cheapest option to get to Europe, even including having to get to Newark...and they offer a free layover in Reykjavik. So we did that as well, and it was lovely. For a cheap you-pay-for-all-the-extras airline, the service is very pleasant.

2. Are you a nervous flyer or a comfortable flyer?

I'm pretty comfortable. I have flown many many times and I'm very used to it.

3. Window seat or aisle seat?

Aisle, usually. I have very long legs and like to stretch them once in a while.

4. What is the worst experience you've had flying?

That afore-mentioned return flight from Newark, but that was because we missed the connection due to a delay at the other end and slow customs agents. We were technically there before it left, but the airline had already closed the flight. We had to rebook a super early morning flight and stay overnight at an airport hotel.

The worst flight was probably Jet Blue to Atlanta for DragonCon 2007. It was super delayed, we sat on the tarmac for hours before leaving and were not allowed to move around, and Chris was flying with us. He's a big dude, so I was very cramped in my seat. And then the flight itself was plagued with turbulence.

5. What is the best experience you've had flying?

Ray and I arrived very last minute for a flight from London to the US, were hustled through the first-class passport line and gate check line, and on top of that we were upgraded to business class. Lovely comfortable flight, good food. I think I slept on that plane for maybe the only time ever.

Penny

Dec. 27th, 2017 10:26 am
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From Tammie's Facebook, she's more eloquent than I would be.

My Joyful puppy Penny, died today. She had undiagnosed cancer; when we found it, it was too late to treat without putting her through more misery and confusion than she could tolerate. So I chose to let her go peacefully.
Be Free Sweet One! Dance your Joy and Delight across the sky. Never forget I love you and I will never forget either. We learned so much together. Thank you for all that you taught me and brought to me. I’m a better person for having loved you.
Hail and farewell- cross that rainbow bridge and don’t look back. What is remembered lives!


I'm feeling very ambivalent. Tammie is devastated; Penny was mostly her dog and she was Penny's human. As she said, Penny was a joyful loving dog, but she had a lot of annoying habits. She was scared of everything. If you were standing still and she ran into you, she would yelp as if you'd kicked her and you'd have to reassure her. She whined a lot, and her whine drilled right into my head like an icepick. She was losing continence; I cleaned up a lot of dog messes and puddles.

But she was also so very happy to go for walks, she'd get excited whenever I put my shoes on in the evening. She just wanted to be near her people wherever we were.
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Everyone already knows what a shitty year 2016 was for the US. I feel no need to reiterate that. There are public lists of good things that happened for the world. Here are a couple:

http://helthehatter.tumblr.com/post/152910935316/good-things-that-happened-in-2016
http://www.pressherald.com/2016/12/31/astronaut-chris-hadfield-offers-a-list-of-things-to-be-thankful-for-from-2016/

It sucked in some personal ways, too, and I feel no need to reiterate those, either, so instead I'm going to list some good things that happened to me personally in 2016.

January and continuing:
I joined Charis (the St Louis Women's Chorus)

April:
Charis concert

June:
Family vacation at the Michigan cabin sans Internet and cell service

August:
My sister got married
I reconnected with a very old friend
Rosa and I had a wonderful vacation (San Francisco!)
Christine spent a week with me

October:
I started taking Zoloft and my mood improved almost immediately
I met a New Guy (and we're still dating)

December:
Chris and Tammie and I got engaged!!!! (You heard it here first)

Charis

May. 4th, 2016 11:14 am
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Last week was exceedingly busy for me. Rehearsals Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday evenings, and concerts Friday and Saturday evenings. I left home at seven am and didn't get home until nearly eleven pm each day. Saturday I did have a bit of a reprieve, since I didn't have to work, and I spent the whole afternoon hanging out with Claudia. But after the show we had to load out the risers, sets and props, and then had an "after party" dinner out, so I didn't get home until one am.

The concerts went amazingly well. We sang some silly songs and some deep and meaningful songs. Act 1 was a peek behind the scenes of Charis rehearsals; there were acted skits between each song that kind of set them into context: A new member comes to join Charis, this is what she experiences. Then Act 2 was the set for the GALA festival in Denver in July which I won't be able to attend but I'm hoping that if I'm still in Charis in four years when the next one occurs that I will be able to go that time.

Here's what we sang. I can't find good examples on youtube of all of them (and we're not on there (yet?).

    Act 1
  • curtain up

  • Another Op'nin', Another Show (Cole Porter, from "Kiss Me Kate")

  • Backdrop display: 14 weeks earlier...

  • skit about pre-rehearsal chatter, new member shows up

  • Scales and Arpeggios (from "The Aristocats")

  • skit about "Sectional Identity" (altos vs sopranos)

  • Alto's Lament

  • skit about singing in foreign languages

  • Lambscapes (Eric Lane Barnes)

      This is basically Mary Had a Little Lamb in the style of...
    • I Gregorian Chant

    • II Handel

    • III Schubert

    • IV Verdi - guest soloist

    • V Orff

    • (We skipped Movement VI for having too many errors in the sheet music)

    • VII Gospel

  • skit about production and sets, while setting up for:

  • Kiss the Girl (from "The Little Mermaid")

  • skit about board meetings

  • Lesbian Second Date Moving Service

  • skit about announcements

  • Announcement Song (music from Another Opnin, Another Show, words by chorus member)


    Act 2
  • Guest soloist, two arias (that we chorus members didn't get to hear, due to being in the hall lining up for the next piece)

  • Freedom Come (sung from the aisles of the theater, social justice photo montage)

  • Women Rock the 80's

  • Singing for our Lives (Holly Near, arr. our director)

  • No Time

  • Chapo Pou Fanm (Sidney Guillaume, in Haitian Kreyol)

  • Real Clothes (Melinda Ohlemuller and Symmetry)

  • Jambalaya (Hank Williams)


    Encore
  • teach a verse of Singing for our Lives to the audience, sing with them from the aisles


14 weeks earlier... (as the early backdrop for the concert said)

This January, I joined the St Louis Women's Chorus, CHARIS. One of my Facebook friends has been posting invitations to the open rehearsals for several years now, and I've generally given it a moment's thought and then forgotten about it. But this year was different.

One day I was sitting in the living room talking to Tammie, complaining that there wasn't enough group singing in my life (it's one of the very few things I miss about regular church attendance), and saying that while pagan chant is enjoyable, it just wasn't Quite The Thing for me. "I wanna sing SHOW TUNES!" I lamented. The very next day, there was a Facebook invite from Alison. (She goes by Al, but for purposes of differentiation, she's going to be Alison here.) So having been slapped in the face by my sign from the universe, I went to my first rehearsal.

After the first one, I also dragged Rosa to them. I told her she should come to three rehearsals, but I wouldn't force her to keep coming after that if she hated it. "But there's another 16-year-old that joined, Laurel, and you have a lot in common." Rosa came for rehearsals for a while, but she had told me from the beginning that she didn't want to perform. I was hoping she'd change her mind, but she never did, and after six weeks or so she also developed a wheeze that seemed to get worse after singing. I decided to let her drop out so that the remaining group could concentrate on blending our sound among the ones who really were going to perform, and because she and Laurel were becoming a distraction by whispering together during practice.

It's been a lot of hard work, weekly rehearsals as well as private practice time (which for me has mostly been in the car, singing along with our practice tracks) and two full-day Saturday rehearsals. But it was only just barely enough time to learn all the songs by heart and get my part down sufficiently so as not to slide onto the next section's part instead. At the last minute (last Wednesday's rehearsal), we had to give up on memorization for one particularly difficult song and work out a smooth way to bring the music folders out for it. Too many of the chorus members just hadn't been able to memorize it. I'd gotten close, but I would have needed about one more week to get there--a week we obviously didn't have.

I am the sort of singer who really isn't naturally "good". I don't have perfect pitch, not even close, and I can only just manage relative pitch with moderate accuracy (i.e., go up or down a step or half step or a third or whatever). Inside my head, my imagined music sounds perfect, but what comes out my face when I start singing almost never matches it, and even I can tell it doesn't. However, with A LOT of practice and/or a strong singer to listen to and follow, I can sing pretty well.

So this has been something of a stretch goal for me. Something I knew I could do, but would have to work hard at. And that's been a really good thing for me.

The only bummer is that I'd been hoping to make some new friends out of the chorus, and that hasn't really happened. Yet? Everyone has been friendly at the rehearsals and such, but no one has yet clicked with me personally. It is still a source of community, though, and that's good.

I'm not going to be able to attend many of the other Charis appearances over the summer due to conflicts, but I am planning to stick with it for next fall.
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My daughter, my delightful child, my impossible teenager, just turned 16. She wanted a sweet sixteen party, and she wanted to invite pretty much everyone she knows. In order to satisfy the tastes of the widest possible range of people without exceeding my exhusband's limited budget, we reserved a group of tables at the local HomeTown buffet, and had a party involving Rosa's friends from school, one of her friends' mothers, her father's family, my parents, Tammie & Chris, Emma, and a couple of my friends.

Because my parents came down from Wisconsin, they were here all weekend. As was my girlfriend Chicago!Chris. Luckily for all involved, my parents stay in a hotel when they visit us, partly due to space constraints in our house, partly due to everyone's comfort level with being right on top of one another in a small space, and, of late, partly due to my father's mobility issues. He can't do stairs at all, and until very recently had been using a wheelchair all the time. He's now able to walk a bit again, but still using a wheelchair for extended periods such as Saturday when my parents, Rosa and I went to the Missouri Botanical Garden.

Saturday evening I took them to dinner with Tammie, Chris, Chicago!Chris, Rosa and a group of our friends from Conflation. As C!C said when we were making the plans, 'we know they're mundanes, we'll behave'. and everyone mostly did, although mom and dad seemed a bit overwhelmed. When making introductions, David said of himself "I'm boring, I'm just married to one woman, unlike most of my friends". My dad replied that he guessed he was boring too.

Sunday night I went to dinner with my parents all by myself, as Rosa was with her father and I wanted to give them a chance to spend time with just me---and grill me with questions if they wanted to. As it happens, they didn't ask me anything difficult. I hadn't really expected them to; at this point they really seem to be willfully ignorant of anything non-conventional about my life. Well, they did ask about Emma's pregnancy, as they had overheard some conversation about it at the party. But that was all.
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I've been doing pretty well this last week. It surprises me somewhat, but other than the first couple of days even the emotional volatility has settled down and I'm mostly content.

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I went to Dance Journey last night with Tammie and Jasmine and had the most energy-perceptive experience I think I've ever had. Jasmine was substitute teaching and she had us concentrate on our Center and our Circumference, feeling the core and the edges of ourselves, reaching out beyond our skin to the rest of the room and even outside. I really felt my center as a ball of blue-white lightning, and when reaching out to the circumference could also feel the brushing touches of the auras of the other people in the room and the grass and breeze outside. Tammie and I both agreed on the aura-colors of everyone else, which surprised me a lot. It was very freeing for me to be "big" in the world, to be expansive and take up energy-space.

I think this is a thing I need to practice more: feeling my surroundings and connections to the others nearby and being as big as I want to be, without losing my core. In contrast, Tammie felt almost the opposite: she spends too much time being sensitive to the others around her and needs to build energy walls and shields around her core.

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Emma told Chris last night that she and Joe are moving back to Chicago; he's got a job offer with the company his father works for. Chris is disappointed and we will miss her, but it sounds like a far better situation for a baby to come into: the new job will pay $18-19/hr which is almost certainly a huge increase on what he makes at Sonic. And it definitely means they aren't expecting any of us to step in for child care or day-to-day support, which was one of my big fears about the situation. On the other hand, it means Emma's mom gets more involved in her daily life again, which may lead to re-estrangement between Chris and Emma.

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My longest podfic to date was published on Sunday! Nearly four hours, recorded and edited in several sessions through July and August, and I'm really pleased with it. http://hd-fan-fair.livejournal.com/106541.html

Author's original Summary: Auror Potter and Unspeakable Malfoy team up to investigate a series of missing persons, and it soon becomes apparent that Dementors are involved. Despite their initial misgivings, Harry and Draco find that they need each other's help, in more ways than one.

Rated: G (yes, really!)

I'm looking for The Next Thing to record. I'd kind of like it to be smutty smexy femslash, if someone has a recommendation. I'm open to any fandom that I have any knowledge of (or can get a base level of knowledge quickly), and I tend to prefer approx 10K in length. That comes out to about an hour at my reading rate, which I can usually do in one sitting, and then go back and edit in another. Not to say that I wouldn't do another long one, or a super short one for that matter.
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Sitting in the living room while Tammie is choosing music. She has been playing blues and bluegrass, some local talent, some well known. Just now it's been selections from "O Brother Where Art Thou?" All three of us are singing along.

When "I'll Go Down to the River"came up, I was reminded that for several months when she was about six, Rosa had been obsessed with that song. We had to keep the CD in the car's player, and I can still tell you that it was track eleven. I had to play it rather a lot.
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Wednesday evening Tammie and I joined a couple of her friends for dinner and art. We hauled a pile of magazines and a stack of matboard blanks over to Arden's house and sat around the dining table with scissors, x-acto knives, brushes and mod podge making soulcollage cards.

Here's what I made: )
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Lazy morning snuggles with [livejournal.com profile] mac_arthur_park, waffles-n-bacon made with love by [livejournal.com profile] lavendargrrl, Kidlet in the corner with her computer, [livejournal.com profile] ohari in the comfy chair talking to his mom...life is very very good.


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Ten years ago today, Friday, December 13, 2002, at the invitation of my newish friend Pam, I went to a party/get-together of St Louis area polyfolk. I even had to call for directions, and was very proud of myself for getting past my telephone dysfunction to do it. Just going by myself to a new place full of new people was something of an accomplishment, though I’d gotten a lot better at that over the last few years.

I was the first to arrive at the house, where I met the inhabitants, Chris and Tammie. I got to spend quite a bit of time getting to know them before anyone else arrived, and then late that night Tammie and I took blankets outside and lay on the ground together watching the Geminid meteor shower. That remains the only time I’ve actually seen meteors (we’ve tried a couple of other times but there has been too much light pollution). I ended up staying all weekend (as did several other people; it was a weekend-long house party) and somewhere in there was kissing and cuddling with Chris. I remember he came in the morning to where I was sleeping and snuggled me. I wasn’t sure yet that the interest I had in Tammie was also mutual, but we figured it out PDQ.

And here we all are, ten years later, having lived together for the last nine, planning to stay for the next forever. Happy Anniversary Mine Loves!
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Mai prezdint, let me sho u him.






Tuesday was a very emotional day. Driving to work, listening to NPR as usual, I started crying every time they interviewed an ordinary Joe or Jane about their experiences. Didn't get an opportunity to watch the inauguration festivities myself, even though $COMPANY had a big-screen set up for the purpose: too busy. This may be for the best, as a face covered in tears, even happy hopeful ones, is not the professional image I try to project.

Then I cried the next day at my lunch table while reading the text of Obama's inauguration speech.

Still haven't watched any of the ceremonies beyond what's been on the regular news coverage. Chris tivoed it though, so I will do that soon.




Wednesday I printed out a copy of +Gene Robinson's invocation from Sunday and stuck it to my cubicle wall, where it remains. I made another one and stuck it on the wall in the break room, but that one has mysteriously disappeared. I'm not really surprised; I expected that to happen. After all, when I occasionally find anonymous copies of homophobic, racist or sexist nonsense posted or left on tables in the breakrooms, or still on the printer, I throw them in the wastebasket immediately like the trash they are. I suspect the anonymous leaver of such things found Bishop Robinson's prayer offensive and did likewise.




Wednesday night was the $COMPANY service awards banquet. I have just completed ten years of service (officially--I worked a year for them as a contractor prior to that), so I was up for an award. When the invitation came, Chris said, "I went with you last time so you should take your girlfriend. It's her turn." After some trepidation, we decided to do just that.

Spent a goodly part of Wednesday afternoon agonizing over the just-right fashion choices, including a purchase of new shoes for each of us, and ended up wearing velvet dresses and tall shoes. Tall enough that I could look Chris in the eye.

Coworkers were...daunted, I think. Everyone was very nice to Tammie, whom I introduced as "my girlfriend Tammie". I let people think that meant whatever they liked to think it meant. It did make one person eat his words, though. He said, "something-something your friend," where we were going to leave it, but then he asked how we know each other. Tammie said, "Um, we live together." He recovered well, though, following up with "and how did you meet?"

I am gratified, for the purpose of my continued employment, that I did not think of the obvious response to "how do you know each other?" until the next evening. Somehow I don't think "carnally" would have been a good choice of riposte under the circumstances.

I didn't sleep very well that night, in part due to temperature issues with the heat in the house, and in part because I was nervous about work the next day. I know what a rumor mill this place is, and I was concerned that people would have been gossiping about me. *shrug* They may well have, but it's been two days now and I haven't heard a single word of it. Either people are minding their own business, they interpreted 'girlfriend' according to their heterocentric mindset as 'close female buddy', or they're managing some really quiet talk that hasn't yet reached any of my closest friends.




I got nuthin else. I just like to say "President Obama".
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Happy birthday to my lovely and beloved [livejournal.com profile] lavendargrrl! May every year be better than the one before, and may all of them be filled with love, joy and laughter.
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Two weeks ago Tuesday, Tammie had a job interview for a lab position at WashU. (She called a few minutes ago to announce that SHE GOT THE JOB!!! ***SQUEE***) When she got home, Rosa put her little hands on her hips, confronted Tammie, and demanded, "Why didn't you pick me up?"

"Because Chris picked you up today."

"But you always pick me up!"

"I had a job interview."

"What kind of job?"

"A science job."

"SCIENCE!!!! I LOVE SCIENCE!" Rosa ran upstairs and grabbed the little Kitchen Chemistry kit she got for Christmas. "Let's do some science!"

Tammie begged off for the time and when I got home from work I was enlisted. I read through the book looking for something that didn't take much prep or make much mess, and picked "Rubbery Recipes". We found two small jars, put one of Roger's fresh brown eggs (harvested by Rosa herself, like as not) in one and a chicken bone from the previous night's fried chicken in the other, and filled them each with vinegar.

Sunday, we opened the egg jar. Sure enough, the shell was rubbery. Poking it gently it bounced back. Very similar to the texture of a peeled hardboiled egg, actually. Also, little brown granules rubbed off of it at a touch.

Not only that, but the egg had expanded. While it went *into* the jar easily enough, it did not want to come *out* again. Thinking I would push it back out of the neck of the jar, I poked it again. It POPPED.

Ew. Egg goo in vinegar with rubbery popped-balloon-like shell fragments, and a nasty smell. Closed the jar back up and put it in the trash.

The chicken bone is still stewing. Updates to come.
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On the testimonial from [livejournal.com profile] gremlin44, I found a local
acupuncturist that treats infertility and made an appointment with her
for this morning. All of Sunday and yesterday I was all nervous and
stuff; I knew I was being silly, but I finally asked Tammie to come to
the appointment with me and hold my hand. Doing "something scary"
doesn't always mean I have to do it by myself.

We went to the appt together. I can't remember ever having such a
detailed discussion of my medical history with any practitioner. It was
good to have Tammie there to help with objective answers to some of the
questions, and to remind me of things I was forgetting, and of course
her presence settled my nerves a lot.

The acupuncturist helped with that as well. She was a young woman, maybe
early 30's, talked to us about knitting--and might show up for
stitch-n-bitch some day--and seemed to have a really positive attitude
and "bedside manner". She says ... Gah. Didn't take notes. But anyway
she stuck me with several tiny needles, mostly in my feet and legs with
some in my abdomen, left wrist and ear. She also gave me some herbs to
take and asked that I start doing basal body temperatures to track
whether it's working.

Being "needled" felt kinda strange. The needles' entrance was hardly
perceptible, and most of the time I couldn't even feel them, but then
I'd have a funny prickly pokey sensation at one of the needle locations.
By turns, it was my ear, my ankle, and my wrist. I never felt the others
at all.

I was supposed to, but completely forgot until Tammie just asked me
about it, drink lots of water today. Oops.

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